Couples Workshops
  • The 5 tenets of Soul-Healing Love.
  • How your childhood affects your adult relationships.
  • Why you picked your partner.
  • Effective Communication Techniques
   
   
Singles Workshops      
  • How to have a healthy relationship.
  • What are your unhealthy relationship patterns?
  • What is your Healthy Partner Profile?
  • The power of prayer in finding a soul mate.
   
   
   
Leadership Training Workshops    
  • The Biblical Foundation for Marriage.
  • Techniques for marital therapy with volatile couples.
  • Teaching effective communication tools to couples.
  • Fostering forgiveness in hurting marriages.
   
   
Institute for Soul Healing Love    
  • Affordable Christian Counseling
  • Low cost seminars & workshops.
  • Scholarships for Soul Healers Workshops.
  • Resources for Building Healthy Relationships.
WORKSHOP CALENDAR
 

February 26-28, 2010
Disney Getaway for Singles and Leaders presented by Cache Connections
and First Baptist Orlando Singles Ministry
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April 23-25, 2010
Soul Healers 15-hr Intensive Weekend
Reniassance Hotel
Southpark, Charlotte, NC
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May 1, 2010
Singlehood Phenomenon
Central Church Life Care Center, Charlotte, NC
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September 24- 25, 2010
Healing the Soul Singles Workshop
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October 22-24, 2010
Soul Healers 15-hr Intensive Weekend
Reniassance Hotel
Southpark, Charlotte, NC
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October 25, 2010
Soul Healers Leaders Training
You will need to have attended a complete Couples
15-hr intensive or watched the DVD's before attending.
Certification is Available
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Speakers Bureau

Types of Workshops by Drs. Bev and Tom:

  • Dinners
  • One and 2-day Couples and Singles Workshops and Retreats
  • Fund Raisers
  • Leadership Training for Pastors, Counselors, Marriage Ministry Leaders, Mentors and Lay counselors

Topics:

  • Marriage and Family
  • The Soul Healing Love Model of Marriage
  • Healthy Communication
  • The Healing Power of Forgiveness
  • Soul Healing Parenting
  • Tortured Men/Angry Women
  • Overcoming the Top Ten Reasons Singles Stay Single
  • Living Single in a Couples World
  • How to Find a Mate that is Right for You
  • Healing Children of Divorce
  • Adult Children of Divorced Parents
  • How Children of Divorce Can Beat the Odds
    .... and More

MORE INFORMATION - CLICK HERE>>

 

 

 

EXERCISES

 

The GIFT Exercise: Helping Couples Understand their Frustrations with Each Other
Taken from Soul Healing Love & How to Find Mr. or Mrs. Right

 

Relationship experts say that most fights are not what they seem to be about. The chronic conflict over your husband cleaning up his crumbs from the counter top is really not about the crumbs at all. There is a deeper root. As a couple we did not know how to get in touch with what those deeper roots were. This dilemma led us to develop an exercise designed to help us get in touch with what is underneath our anger in marital spats.

 

Anger theorists teach that anger is not a primary emotion. It is a secondary response to 4 primary feelings they are: Guilt, Inferiority or inadequacy, fear, and hurt or pain. Since this list was hard to remember in the “heat of battle” we developed and acronym to remember it—


Guilt
  Inferiority
   Fear
     Trauma or Pain

The acronym spells the word GIFT which not only makes it easy to remember, but it is also a gift to each other to communicate more effectively.

 

In the past when we became angry we merely exchanged angry words. This just made our partner even more angry and did not bring clarity or understanding. Now when one of us is mad we say “When you do this------ I feel guilt, inferiority or what emotion might best fit the situation. This causes us to calmly discuss our marital dilemmas and brings understanding where there was once frustration.
 
 

The Digging Deeper Exercise
Taken from Soul Healing Love & How to Find Mr. or Mrs. Right

 

When you are in conflict, this exercise helps you determine what you really need so you can get to the root of the problem quickly and without causing even more damage.

 

  1. What is the behavior that you do, that triggers my anger?
    When you..... I feel....

  2. Identify the root of my anger using...
    The GIFT Exercise

    Guilt
    Inferiority
    Fear
    Trauma or Pain

  3. When have I ever felt this before?

  4. What do I do when I feel this feeling? What is my behavior?

  5. What do I really NEED?